“The beauty of a great relationship is that it creates a third entity. The relationship itself becomes like a child that needs nurturing, attention, and care. When both partners prioritize and tend to this entity, the relationship thrives and grows stronger than the sum of its parts.” - Stacy Raske

Relationship Reset focusing on the Third Entity

When it comes to relationships, many people focus on the individuals involved, but there's actually a third entity that's just as important: the "we" element.

Every relationship becomes TRIAD between you, the other, and the WE element or relationship itself.

This third entity is what defines the relationship and makes it unique.

It's the combination of both individuals and their shared experiences, emotions, and values.

Nurturing this "we" element is essential for any relationship to thrive and grow.

And if the relationship is struggling, that’s the entity that isn’t being nurtured and grown.

Changing the relationship means changing this third entity, not just the individuals.

For example, if one person in a relationship decides to start or scale their own business, this will inevitably impact the "we" element of the relationship.

So how can you nurture this third entity?

Communication is key.

First, you must be HONEST with yourself about WHAT you desire, WHO you’re being in the relationship, and HOW you’re showing up.

You must have open and honest conversations about your individual needs and desires, as well as your shared goals and aspirations.

This allows you to understand each other better and work towards a common goal.

Have shared goals.

It’s amazing how many relationships don’t have SHARED goals.

Another way to nurture the "we" element is by creating shared experiences, like starting a new hobby together or traveling somewhere new.

Shared experiences help strengthen the bond between individuals and create a stronger "we" element.

Most importantly, acknowledge that the "we" element is not static.

It evolves and changes over time, just as individuals do.

Nurturing the Third Entity requires ongoing effort and commitment from both individuals in the relationship.

Changing the relationship means changing this third entity, which requires open communication, shared experiences, and ongoing effort from both individuals involved.

By prioritizing the "we" element, individuals can create stronger and more fulfilling relationships.

This applies to ALL relationships…

• partners, parents, and family

• with your business and team

• even with resources like time and money.

Especially the relationship with YOU!

Which one will you shift first?

Jeff and I started with our marriage as it was the only place we weren't showing up as our best.

And we were okay with not being attached to the outcome, which included possibly not staying together if that's the conclusion we came to together.

The only thing not being nurtured was the "WE" part of our marriage, it was still stuck somewhere between 15-20 years ago. Not who we are today.

Our solution was to burn it down and let the relationship die rather than fix it.

That was the best option for us!

We then started building the foundation to a completely new relationship.

Now, our relationship is being nurtured like we just started dating, yet with the wisdom of what we learned and the new rules of engagement we've written for ourselves.